It has been said, “No man is worth your tears, and the one who is will never make you cry.” Of course, “they” say many things, you know, “the collective them,” as I refer to those who have nothing better than to sit around and make these statements, most likely because "they" don't have a freaking clue! These are the same "people," who say my least favorite, "It is what it is;" or "Well, what are you gonna do?" How about fix the problem, offer a suggestion, or get the hell out of my way?
However, what happens on the rare occasion when you actually do stumble upon a person who has only brought laughter, fun, romanticism, and the tears are merely post, well, you know. ☺ Especially, when neither one, the other or both, whom sparked have room in their lives for emotional or romantic entanglements? Rhetorically speaking, though I am sure situations like these arise, but if one cliche becomes real; does that give credence to the others? I swear, the next person who throws his/her hands in the air and says, "It is what it is," and walks away will not rank any higher in my book; so the answer in my opinion is a resounding, "No!" How then can one simple thing such as this finding a good man happen? The friend relating her story to me has been brow-beaten to death by me with so many questions she's about to cave. My answer has been, "Give it time, sister, he'll come around!"
The problem with this scenario is your friends want you to be happy, and good friends tell you, "Do whatever makes YOU happy." Sadly, my friend wants the man whom she has always wanted, but never knew was there. What am I supposed do to for her now? One, she is a married woman so for anything to progress, she would have to become unmarried; however, she's been on that trip for ages. There are no guarantees in life even if she divorces, aloneness is the best she can assume. If she wanted to stay with a man who makes her miserable, she would have chosen another many years ago for much better reasons. No matter which direction she goes from this point forward she is screwed, and most likely to end up alone because "he" is just too good a catch to hold any extended interest in her.
So, my answer to "the ones who are worth it will never make you cry," is BULL SHIT!! He may not want or mean to make you cry, but it is bound to happen no matter what unless you are in some sick Disney, Happy Ever After movie - which we all know never happens.
Look at me, heart disease and all, I've people all the time wishing they were in my shoes because all they see is the facade - the pictures you see in my last post, and the husband who works night & day to provide handsomely for "us." Thus, I feel it my responsibility to remind you all - cliches are named such for a reason. Do not base your romantic life on the lack of tears, but the spark, chemistry the two of you feel for each other; and, an enjoyment of common interests helps tremendously too. If you enjoy each other's company rather than sitting in separate areas of the house - you are off to a great start!
What do I know, though? I'm no Dr. Ruth! It is what it is, and what are you gonna do about it?
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